Sexual Objectification: What is the cause?

7/21/2016

I decided I am going to use my blog to write my notes on a new research project I am conducting pertaining to the objectification of women in our society. It is a topic I have been very interested lately.
I have some questions:
1. Why is it okay for a woman to show her shoulders or wear short cut bottoms, but it is not okay or considered "awkward" for men to do so in a formal or somewhat formal setting?
(example: I saw a wedding photo where the man was in a tuxedo and the woman was in cut off sleeve dress that was above the knee)
I am not saying there is a problem with the way she is dressed, at all.
my question is
-why is it okay for women, but not okay for a man to dress with the shorter lengths?
 and
- why do I feel awkward if a guy wears shorter lengths on legs or arms?

HERE is a reference that helped me open my eyes:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u_4dPB9MVS8


I used to fall strongly on the stance that in order to avoid objectification, both male and females should dress modestly, because, I felt just as uncomfortable if a female or male dressed inappropriate for a formal or semi-formal occasion.
(example: wearing a crop-top to school. School is a semi-"formal" occasion and I would feel uncomfortable when girls would wear this to school)

Now I am questioning, why do I feel uncomfortable? 
However, after watching  the video, my mind is open to a new perspective. DO I feel this way because of the way media has portrayed me to think skin showing=sexuality?
I will keep you posted.